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Describe one of your favorite moments.

One? You are going to make me pick one?

Ok. I’ll pick one.

While we were dating Jordan and I went to a prayer meeting that I was leading.

I had been going through the ringer of emotions. For the last 7 years I had been addicted to pornography and really didn’t want to be. I was only recently becoming aware of the impact that it was having on my current relationship.

While there,some of the guys in our group prayed over my situation and especially my emotions. For my frequent readers, this was the Tuesday after the events of: Husbands, Love Your Wives

That night Jordan and I are cuddling and it hits me….

Suddenly it hits me…

“We are going to get married” I said

This is the first time I said it out loud…

I’m not exactly sure what went through my wife’s head in that particular moment. I’m sure it was something along the lines of “Duh.”

She told me the day we started dating that she was “All In.” She told me the third day that we dated that we were going to get married….

Actually, that conversation started our first fight. For somewhere in the ballpark of 48 hours we barely spoke and were entirely at odds.

My wife is the most truthful person I know by the way… and if she knows something… generally she just says it.., unless it’s a secret. She is very trustworthy…. But the fact that we were heading towards marriage wasn’t a secret to her. She had known it for a while and thought I knew it too.

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Well that night while cuddling… less than a month later… I knew it… and finally said it out loud.

This was her response:

“I agree, but here’s the thing Sam… my sister is going to be the maid of honor at my wedding… and in three weeks she gets on a plane to go back to China….she will be gone for a year…

Do you really think we can wait a year?“

You see I’m one of those “old-fashioned” people that wanted to wait to have sex until we got married. For me I made this decision based both on Faith and my basic knowledge of Psychology.

My response: “No… but that’s crazy” (Crazy may be, but we got married 17 days later)

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The idea of planning a wedding and getting married in the next three weeks seemed outlandish… not to mention…. Is that healthy?

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Remember those prayers that were prayed for me earlier in the evening about my emotions?

God chose this moment to answer them.

Suddenly I was flooded with a familiar joy as God reminded me of some of the people I admired.

William Wilberforce, Christian politician, and abolitionist, went from meeting to married in 1 more day than what my wife was proposing for a time frame.

I knew we were getting married. I knew we were getting married in 17 days. (Or close to, but that is the actual number)

The Lord had mercy on my overloaded brain that moment and gave my wife some wisdom.

She told me:: “why don’t you talk to some people you trust, I wouldn’t expect you to do this without talking to them”

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It was the next day. I explained it to a father figure in my life…. As I was explaining it to him I realized Gods hand in everything that had happened in the last month. The truth is this man with a sensitive spirit needed less convincing then I did. I walked out of that meeting resolved.

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Now 5 years and 10 months later… I know that I knew: that while seemingly brash… I had just made the second best decision of my life.

First being following Jesus… but that’s another story.